"There is a voice inside which speaks and says: 'This is the real me!'"
-, was a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher who was trained as a medical doctor.
"Resolve to be thyself: and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery."
-, was a British poet.
"You will always have to live with yourself, and it is to your best interest to see that you have good company -- a clean, pure, straight, honest, upright, generous, magnanimous companion."
-, was an American writer associated with the New Thought Movement.
"You really have to look inside yourself and find your own inner strength, and say, "I'm proud of what I am and who I am, and I'm just going to be myself.""
- Mariah Carey, is an American R&B/pop singer-songwriter, record producer and actress.
My name is Mastin Kipp & I am the Founder of The Daily Love.
Photo by Brent Mullins.
Self-hate is a dream killer. It is also a spit in the face to The Uni-verse, which created you to fulfill a great purpose.
How do you step out of self-hate?
The first step is accepting that you hate yourself and then believing that you deserve to be happy (even if it feels fake). It takes courage to love yourself. It takes courage to be happy. There is a HUGE pay off for hating yourself. It means you don't have to grow, step into the unknown and that you can continue to tell your sob story and get love and validation from those who feel sorry for you.
But that is no way to get love. And pretty soon, if you keep telling your sob story without claiming ownership of your part about why you are still stuck, people will start to get sick and tired of hearing about it. Life is hard, growth isn't easy and real friends are there for you. But at some point even your best friends won't want to hear it. This isn't because they aren't your friends, it's because they want the best for you and wallowing in a pity story doesn't serve your greatest good, or theirs.
So, are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Are you ready to change? Do you want to wake up and love yourself a little more tomorrow? Do your dreams call to you, yet no one is answering the call on your end? Are you ready?
Then come with me. Step out of the victim identity that says you are not worth happiness. Accept and affirm to yourself that you love you. Claim responsibility for your part in why you have stayed in this low vibration for so long. See that you actually get your needs met by throwing a pity party. Then start to take action from this moment forward.
Call your friends and thank them for being there. Tell them that you will no longer tell the pity story and that you want to step into the Light of Love and change. Then ask them to hold you accountable when you slip.
Some other great steps to overcoming self-hatred are to make changes to your diet. Start to alkalize your body. If you don't know how to do this, read "The pH Miracle" or "The Body Ecology Diet" to find the answer. Get out of the house and exercise and take a yoga class. Start to journal your feelings every morning. Make a gratitude list daily of what you are grateful for, rather that why you feel sorry for yourself.
Also, find a way to be of service - not just with your money, but also with your time. Get into the experience of being of service. Give your time to the sick, homeless or elderly or find a cause that moves you.
Getting outside of yourself and being of service is a wonderful way to lift your spirit. Get help, too. Start to see a therapist or get a life coach/mentor.
There is great love available to you, right here and right now. When you close up and do not love yourself, it is as if you have created an impenetrable wall and are keeping all of the love out of your life. People can only love you to the same degree that you love yourself.
It's scary, but open up and let their love in. Accept a little more, day by day, that you are love-able and worthy. Let go of the need to control and accept the love that comes your way. If you are not surrounded by loving people, set a boundary and go where the love is.
It gets better, day by day, if you let it.
I love myself.
I forgive myself.
I tell a new and empowered story about who I am.