"Every situation, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity to heal."
- A Course in Miracles
"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them."
- Thomas Merton, 20th Century Catholic writer.
"To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad. It seems almost paradoxical, yet when your inner dependency on form is gone, the general conditions of your life, the outer forms, tend to improve greatly. Things, people, or conditions that you thought you needed for your happiness now come to you with no struggle or effort on your part, and you are free to enjoy and appreciate them. Life flows with ease."
- Eckhart Tolle, best-selling author and spiritual teacher.
If you only love someone when they give you what you want, you don't love them, you love getting what you want.
This isn't to say that you should let people walk all over you, no. Boundaries are important. Giving and receiving are important.
But choosing to love someone is one of the most selfless acts a human being can perform.
When you hold a space of love for someone whatever the outcome YOU will become a stronger person for it and the person who you love will be healed by your love.
Do not retreat because you are afraid of not getting what you want, step outside of yourself and have the courage to love someone today. Both of you will be better off for it.
Today I will meet challenge with a postive attitude because I know I can handle it!
I give to others what I wish to receive from them with no expectation of return.
I give myself the love I desire from others.
I am one with life, whatever happens today is FOR my growth and benefit.