Friday, April 29, 2011
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
The Simple Steps to Finding Big Love!
by ARIELLE FORD on APRIL 27, 2011
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Is it your heart’s desired to spend your life with a life-partner… who will love, cherish and adore you? Are you ready to open your heart (and your mind) to take control of your romantic destiny by consciously manifesting love? If so, I promise to show you the way.
As someone who didn’t meet and marry my soul mate until I was 44, I learned a lot along the way about what does and doesn’t work in the world of love and romance.
Here’s what I know for sure: finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you’re willing to prepare your self, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
When I decided to manifest my soulmate my intentions became crystal clear, while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart. I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship. And they worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. He was and is everything I ever wished for.
To manifest your soul mate here are the ten top things to do and remember:
• Be the loving person that you are. Find ways to express more love to everyone in your life.
• Live in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship.
• Live that truth every day as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
• Create a “vision map” of your romantic vision and look at it daily.
• Write a list of the most important qualities your soul mate will possess.
• Heal your heart of any past hurts that will prevent you from magnetizing big love.
• Clear out the clutter in your home and create space for your beloved (especially in your closets).
• Create an altar in the relationship corner of your home.
• Listen to your intuition to take action when opportunities present themselves.
• Fall in love with yourself. Know that you are loveable.
Big love is possible for any one of any age if you are willing to become a magnet for love. Continue to live each day in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive. Please visit http://www.soulmatekit.com/.
Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction (Harper One). She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband. Please visit her websites: www.soulmatesecret.com andwww.facebook.com/soulmatesecret.Email This Post
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
"Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don't over-analyse your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness."
- Leo F. Buscaglia, was the Dr. of Love!
"Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself."
- Jesus Christ, is the central figure of Christianity.
"All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him."
-, is the central figure of Buddhism.
"Be fearless and pure; never waver in your determination or your dedication to the spiritual life. Give freely. Be self-controlled, sincere, truthful, loving, and full of the desire to serve...Learn to be detached and to take joy in renunciation. Do not get angry or harm any living creature, but be compassionate and gentle; show good will to all. Cultivate vigor, patience, will, purity; avoid malice and pride. Then, you will achieve your destiny."
- Krishna, is a central figure of Hinduism.
It's so important to put the loving first.
Love of yourself and then love of others. People can feel your loving most, not with words, but with actions and presence.
Instead of trying to correct, change or otherwise influence those you love, just meet them where they are, right now, and love them there.
This includes you. Meet yourself where you are. If there is anything you want to change about yourself, first accept where you are and love it. Acceptance and love of where you are, right now, makes change and transformation much easier. Instead of fighting against a negative self-image, you are embracing a positive self-image. As a result, the process of change and transformation is joyful rather than stressful.
Another way to meet yourself and others where you are is to drop the word "should" from your vocabulary. In truth, there is nothing you should have done differently; there is nothing they should have done differently; there is only reality, your acceptance of it as it is, and a gentle transformation of it moment by moment to a more loving state.
When you should all over yourself & others, you have stepped out of love and into fear.
Nestle into self-love and acceptance of the moment. All good things flow to the humble heart that knows all is well and getting better.
So, in your loving today, don't love them and yourself if they are only the way you want. Love them and yourself where you are right now. Watch what beauty happens.
I put love first.
I accept & love myself right where I am.
I accept & love others right where they are.
Friday, April 22, 2011
"There is a voice inside which speaks and says: 'This is the real me!'"
-, was a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher who was trained as a medical doctor.
"Resolve to be thyself: and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery."
-, was a British poet.
"You will always have to live with yourself, and it is to your best interest to see that you have good company -- a clean, pure, straight, honest, upright, generous, magnanimous companion."
-, was an American writer associated with the New Thought Movement.
"You really have to look inside yourself and find your own inner strength, and say, "I'm proud of what I am and who I am, and I'm just going to be myself.""
- Mariah Carey, is an American R&B/pop singer-songwriter, record producer and actress.
Self-hate is a dream killer. It is also a spit in the face to The Uni-verse, which created you to fulfill a great purpose.
How do you step out of self-hate?
The first step is accepting that you hate yourself and then believing that you deserve to be happy (even if it feels fake). It takes courage to love yourself. It takes courage to be happy. There is a HUGE pay off for hating yourself. It means you don't have to grow, step into the unknown and that you can continue to tell your sob story and get love and validation from those who feel sorry for you.
But that is no way to get love. And pretty soon, if you keep telling your sob story without claiming ownership of your part about why you are still stuck, people will start to get sick and tired of hearing about it. Life is hard, growth isn't easy and real friends are there for you. But at some point even your best friends won't want to hear it. This isn't because they aren't your friends, it's because they want the best for you and wallowing in a pity story doesn't serve your greatest good, or theirs.
So, are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Are you ready to change? Do you want to wake up and love yourself a little more tomorrow? Do your dreams call to you, yet no one is answering the call on your end? Are you ready?
Then come with me. Step out of the victim identity that says you are not worth happiness. Accept and affirm to yourself that you love you. Claim responsibility for your part in why you have stayed in this low vibration for so long. See that you actually get your needs met by throwing a pity party. Then start to take action from this moment forward.
Call your friends and thank them for being there. Tell them that you will no longer tell the pity story and that you want to step into the Light of Love and change. Then ask them to hold you accountable when you slip.
Some other great steps to overcoming self-hatred are to make changes to your diet. Start to alkalize your body. If you don't know how to do this, read "The pH Miracle" or "The Body Ecology Diet" to find the answer. Get out of the house and exercise and take a yoga class. Start to journal your feelings every morning. Make a gratitude list daily of what you are grateful for, rather that why you feel sorry for yourself.
Also, find a way to be of service - not just with your money, but also with your time. Get into the experience of being of service. Give your time to the sick, homeless or elderly or find a cause that moves you.
Getting outside of yourself and being of service is a wonderful way to lift your spirit. Get help, too. Start to see a therapist or get a life coach/mentor.
There is great love available to you, right here and right now. When you close up and do not love yourself, it is as if you have created an impenetrable wall and are keeping all of the love out of your life. People can only love you to the same degree that you love yourself.
It's scary, but open up and let their love in. Accept a little more, day by day, that you are love-able and worthy. Let go of the need to control and accept the love that comes your way. If you are not surrounded by loving people, set a boundary and go where the love is.
It gets better, day by day, if you let it.
I love myself.
I forgive myself.
I tell a new and empowered story about who I am.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
"Expect your every need to be met. Expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level."
-, was a spiritual teacher and new age author, best known as one of the founders of the .
"Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them. You will receive abundance for your giving."
- W. Clement Stone, was a businessman, philanthropist and self-help book author.
"The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car... a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little."
- Ben Sweetland, author.
"People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that means there will be less for me. The more principle-centered we become, the more we develop an, the more we are genuinely happy for the successes, well-being, achievements, recognition, and good fortune of other people. We believe their success adds to...rather than detracts from...our lives."
- The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People., is the author of the best-selling book,
Here's a major block to getting what you want: scarcity or lack of consciousness.
What's that mean? It means believing that there is not enough to go around. Doesn't matter what you think it is, this applies to all forms of manifestations.
Love, money, success, happiness, whatever.
Buying into the belief that there is not enough will only hinder you.
Why? Well, first of all, in an INFINITE Uni-verse the thought that there isn't enough is just a straight lie.
The Uni-verse is naturally abundant; it is we, the humans, who don't understand this, and as a result create the temporary "experience" of lack. But, if we look deeper, we will see lack is just a belief we've bought into.
Don't believe me? Try to count all the grains of sand on a beach, or all the cells in your body. There are TRILLIONS of cells in your body and even more grains of sand on this earth.
Some of the wealthiest people became wealthy during recessions and the Great Depression. Even recently companies like Groupon (which Google offered to buy for BILLIONS and was turned down) and Facebook are thriving and experienced huge growth during the recession.
This isn't about lack of resources, love or friendship in the world. This is about a lack of inner love, possibility and friendship.
When you truly belong to yourself, when you trust your Higher Power, when you accept yourself, claim your talents and see possibility in the world, life starts to change.
Lack is an inner experience, not an outer reality. The reason why there is lack in the world is because human beings are not in alignment with the natural way of things. The majority of us are driven by fear and the belief in lack and separation from each other, so that is what most of us experience.
But we, the Seekers on The Path perceive differently. We believe and experience an infinite supply. We are already connected to all that we wish to manifest. We leave room for miracles, synchronicity and Grace to show up in our lives. We are co-Creators of our lives and so we are not victims of the way most people believe life to be.
We know there is more than enough out there and that we are more than enough "in here". So there is no chase. There is only enjoyment of the present moment. When we want a new experience, we shift our intention, change our actions and persist with faith that all things are being done for our greatest good.
This shift from lack to abundance thinking is a game changer. Try it for one year, make your thoughts, intentions, actions and beliefs line up with the natural abundance of The Uni-verse and see what happens.
I can promise you this, dear Reader- life will NEVER be the same again!
I see possibility everywhere I go.
I co-create my greatest life with The Uni-verse.
My inner world is greater than my outer circumstances.
"When you are grateful fear disappears and abundance appears."
-, best-selling author, speaker and master motivator.
"A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her."
- David Brinkley, newscaster.
"Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life."
- Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D. and best-selling author.
"What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life."
- Oprah Winfrey, media mogul.
One of the most common patterns I see with most of my clients who are in unhealthy relationships is the belief that this is the best it can get for them and that they are lucky to be getting 25% of the love they really want.
AND if they ever did have the guts to break up with this person that it would be a life sentence to loneliness and singledom. They think so lowly of themselves that they actually BELIEVE that they don't deserve or won't be able to attract a truly loving partner.
My friend, NOTHING could be further from the truth. This is a literal Uni-verse. Whatever you think INTO it is what it will MIRROR back to you. So, from a certain point of view those who believe it to be impossible to find lasting love are right, not because it's the truth, but because that is the belief they are thinking and acting upon. As a result, what manifests in their life is a lack of intimate love and an experience of just "getting by" on scraps of love.
See, it's not that intimate love, success and all that rad stuff isn't available to you; if you think this way, YOU literally are not available for IT.
I believe with all my heart that if you raise your standards you will rise along with them. When you do ask more of The Uni-verse, a mystic process begins to unfold. Once your intention and actions are in alignment, all the unhealthy fragments of your life begin to fall away.
It is so important to not cling to these unhealthy attachments. But, instead, sit back and let them go. When you stay in situations that you have outgrown mentally or spiritually, because you are afraid that there will be nothing for you on the other side, you stunt your growth and hold yourself back.
If you were still trying to wear the same shoes you wore when you were 4 years old and believed that those were the only shoes you could ever wear because no shoes will ever fit you again, you would be in a mess of trouble.
Look at these unhealthy and dramatic relationships and situations the same way. You've out grown the shoes and your feet are in pain because you won't take them off. Except in life it's not your feet, but your Spirit and Heart that are in pain. If you hold on too long you will begin to get dis-ease in the body.
So let it go with joy! Know there are plenty of shoes out there that are your size and, if for some reasons there aren't, then know you have all the resources within you to construct your own customized pair of shoes! :)
Don't settle for 25%; let go and let The Uni-verse bring you 125%. Keep your standard high; that's how you fly, my friend.
I let go of the good and leave room for the great.
I am worth all the good stuff.
There is more than enough love for me out there.
Monday, April 18, 2011
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Thursday, April 14, 2011
"The ancestor of every action is a thought."
-, author, poet, transcendental man.
"Thought is the sculptor who can create the person you want to be."
-, author and transcendental man.
"As the physically weak person can make themself strong by careful and patient training, so the person of weak thoughts can make them strong by exercising themself in right thinking."
"And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened."
- Jesus Christ
Here's a liberating thought - you don't have to believe every thought that you think. AND - not every thought that you think is true.
You might be conditioned to think - THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS TO ME.
Or perhaps - I DON'T DESERVE LOVE.
Or even better - I DON'T DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.
Since when did you let thoughts like this run your world? And who said you should believe them? And WHY do you believe them?
Today, here is a practice for you... Just for today, try NOT believing your thoughts. Just notice them.
When you have fearful thoughts, do not react, just notice. When you have thoughts of needing something outside yourself, do not react, just notice. When you have angry thoughts, do not react - just notice. When you have resentful thoughts, do not react, just notice.
If you want to live on The Path and reach your Highest Potential, it is essential that your awareness, your Soul, your Heart run the show. Do not buy into every thought that your mind believes. When you start to change your life, your mind will still believe the old thoughts and think that the newer and healthier thoughts are "weird", "lies" or "cheesy". None of these things are true.
If you want to step into a new way of being, then do not buy into what you think. Instead, learn to silence the mind through meditation (simply sit down for 15 minutes, close your eyes and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nose). When thoughts come up, just notice them and let them go.
It's liberating to know that not everything you think is true, and it's even more liberating to know that you have a CHOICE over which thoughts you want to believe.
I choose thoughts of love.
I let go of any thoughts that do not resonate with love.
I am always met with an answer. I listen to hear it today.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
"Grace is available for each of us every day - our spiritual daily bread - but we've got to remember to ask for it with a grateful heart and not worry about whether there will be enough for tomorrow."
- , author
"Our goal while on this earth is to transcend our illusions and discover the innate power of our spirit. We are responsible for what we create, and we must therefore learn to act and think with love and wisdom and live in service to others and all life."
"Faith is the power to stand up to the madness and chaos of the physical world while holding the position that nothing external has any authority over what heaven has in mind for you."
- , best-selling author.
A lot of folks tend to think, when they are pursuing their dreams, that when things aren't going the way they "want" or the way they "planned", that they should give up. Many of my clients and readers want to give up when things get a little tough. And it's interesting to me to see how easy it is for people to BELIEVE the negative voice in their head, far more than their positive and neutral voices.
It's almost like we are so afraid of getting our heart broken by our dream not coming true that any sign of setback, let down or unmet expectations are an excuse to stop trying.
But see, the thing is, walking on The Path will very rarely ever meet your "expectations". The Uni-verse speaks in paradox. What looks big, is usually small; what looks scary is usually joyful; what seems impossible is very much achievable and what seems hard can be easy. It's just being able to understand the paradoxical nature of The Uni-verse as well as having the emotional fitness and humility to not have to buy into the thought that everything has to go "your way".
Instead of judging a situation as "bad", a "setback" or a "quitting point", look at it this way: see GRACE.
You have no idea how protected, guided and looked after you are. When you look back at this moment in a few weeks, months or years, you very well will look back and see a blessing instead of a setback. So train your mind to refrain from judging a situation. Believe in grace. Instead of running away from your dreams, just sit with the uncomfortable feelings, meditate, take care of yourself and let them pass through you.
Do not run away because it is uncomfortable. Stay BECAUSE it is uncomfortable. Let your fears be purified by facing them. Let your judgments fade by not reacting to them and seeing how they play out over time. Humble yourself and know that things don't have to go YOUR WAY for you to be happy. There could be a way that is being guided from The Uni-verse that is much greater than you could ever imagine.
Emotional fitness, humility and a grace-filled mind will take you where you need to go. Let go of the judgments. Let go of the expectations and just show up fully with whatever you are feeling today. But do not turn back. Stay in the fire. You are not being burned - you are bring purified.
No matter what happens I choose to see Grace in every moment.
I face my fears knowing I am being purified.
I release the need to know why things happen as they do and instead choose to learn and move on.