"Focus on your potential instead of your limitations."
- Alan Loy McGinnis, was an author & Christian psychotherapist.
"Goals give you a compass in order to direct your path through life. Goals focus your thoughts and actions on areas that have precise purpose and meaning."
- Catherine Pulsifer, is a glass artist and author.
"Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success."
- Vincent van Gogh, was a Dutch post-Impressionist painter whose work had a far-reaching influence on 20th century art.
"Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal; while others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous efforts than before."
- Polybius, was a Greek historian of the Hellenistic Period noted for his book called The Histories.
My name is Mastin Kipp & I am the Founder of The Daily Love.
Photo by Brent Mullins.
It's amazing to me, how many people are afraid of the word "no", ESPECIALLY when it comes to intimate relationships and being an entrepreneur.
I've seen in my own life and in the life of many of my clients that we tend to spend so much time avoiding a "no", that we waste time, and instead of marching right through our fears and on to the next, we delay, delay, delay.
The logic goes something like this:
We delay getting a "no" because if we get a "no" then we will be rejected, and if we're rejected it means we are unlovable, unworthy and our dreams aren't real. And feeling those feelings of rejection is almost worse than our feelings of fear surrounding death. So, our lower self does everything it can to avoid those feelings. It procrastinates. It overeats. It drinks too much. It works too much. It avoids tough conversations with loved ones. It's passive aggressive and it runs from those who expose us to those critical deeper truths about ourselves.
But see, that way of thinking isn't true. Getting a "no" can be painful, but it's not final. There are 3.5 billion single people in the world today. Edison tried 10,000 times before he got it right. Fred Smith, the founder of FedEx, was laughed at by his business professors at Yale for his idea of FedEx and even got a C on his presentation (his net worth is now $2.1 billion). And on and on the story goes.
Because you are a Seeker on The Path, your duty to your Highest Self, to your dreams and to those not yet on The Path, is to invite the rejection into your life and then be unphased by it. You see, there is truly no such thing as rejection or failure. Rejection and failure are outcomes only of the mind, but not of reality. In reality, if someone says "no", it's just a result. It's impersonal. You take this result personally and call it "rejection" or "failure", but The Uni-verse just calls it a result.
So, if you want to live your dreams, take Edison's approach and instead of seeing "failure", see each attempt that didn't work as a result and as one step closer to your goal, because you now know one more thing that didn't work. This means you are actually smarter and wiser than you were before.This is simply part of the learning process.
Taking things personally will not help you make your dreams comes true. As I said last week, if you come from a place of fullness, more fullness will be given to you. So, know that when you produce results that do not match your expectations, do not call it rejection or failure and then create some silly sob story about yourself. Just be full, learn your lessons and know that the perfect person and outcome is on the way. A delay is not a denial, my friend, and a shorterm "no" does not mean a final "no".
Press on. Press on with all your heart and get busy producing results.
I give life my all and produce only results that I learn from.
I am at peace with rejection because I know it is part of the journey.
I move forward with certainty even when things don't happen the way I wish they would. I am taken care of in every moment, even if I can't see it right now. The Uni-verse has my back.