"An argument is always about what has been made more important than the relationship."
- , is an author, minister, and counselor.
"However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the "right" person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside."
- , best-selling author and speaker.
"An does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we truly function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes."
- Patricia Fry, author.
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take."
- , peak performance coach & best-selling author.
My name is Mastin Kipp & I am the Founder of The Daily Love.
Photo by Brent Mullins.
It's really popular these days to say "You do you, and I'll do me and then MAYBE we can be together." The more I dive into what makes me REALLY happy in a relationship, the more I think this is total B.S.
If you only love yourself, if you only want someone who meets YOUR needs, if you only have room for someone who fits perfectly into into all your expectations of how you THINK a relationship SHOULD BE; I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER HAVE PASSION with that attitude.
Of course you have to love yourself. Or course your cup has to be full in order to give to someone else, but that isn't enough. This hard barrier of "I'm doin' me" only is a purely narcissistic thought and based on fear. The fear that you have to do only you because if you let someone else in, they might mess it all up, they may not meet your needs, they may not have your best interest in mind. So, instead of being giving with your love, you hold it back and just "love yourself". That is only HALF of the equation. With that kind of attitude you may have a partner, and it may be hot at first, but eventually the initial excitement will die. Once lust fades and the challenge of being in a REAL and LOVING relationship is at hand, you can't just LOVE YOURSELF.
To have PASSION, to have EXCITEMENT, FULFILLMENT and JOY in a relationship you must LIVE for the other person. Put as much time, attention, energy and passion into your relationship as you do achieving your goals. A relationship, like anything else, requires energy and attention.
Wow! Living for someone else, sounds scary doesn't it? What if they leave you; what if they aren't the right person? That is the EXACT same line of thinking that a scared entrepreneur says before they start a business, "What if this doesn't work?" And that question leaves a doubt in your mind and is an excuse to not give it your all. Whether it is a new business or a relationship, being fearful that it won't work and therefore holding back is a main contributing reason WHY you don't have the relationship and success that you so eagerly desire.
If you are in a relationship and it's lacking passion, do EVERYTHING you can for three months to serve your partner. Act EXACTLY the same as you did at the beginning of the relationship. Ladies, make your man your HERO, and guys, don't try to FIX her, just be present and consistent with her. Ladies, the more you respect your man, the more he will cherish you. Fellas, the more you show up and make her feel safe, the more she will open to you.
If you are in a gay relationship the exact same thing goes for you. Instead of guy/girl, think feminine and masculine energy. The same principles apply.
If you are single, seek out a relationship with the intention of seeing how much LOVING and GROWING you are capable of. Do not seek out a relationship simply to get something from the other person.
And remember, the single most important part of a healthy and loving relationship is PICKING the RIGHT PERSON. Don't just settle; choose an OUTSTANDING and amazing person. And if you have to become an OUTSTANDING and AMAZING person to attract one, get busy growing!
I give everything to my partner; there are no boundaries.
I attract love and passion in every moment!
I attract a high quality partner who is passionate and helps me grow spiritually.